Have you ever planned a wedding or party or event and had something go array? It was a huge deal at the time. You still think about it and shudder.
But you know who noticed it?
Probably no one.
Even if you mentioned it to an individual that attended the debacle do you know what they’d most likely say? Nothing. They would just give you a confused look like they have no idea what you are talking about.
But fear is a pervasive jerk that is bound to show up again and again. It can ruin a future opportunity and also your dreams.
Often, because we don’t succeed or get hurt, we refuse to put ourselves out there again. You wrote a story and no one liked it. What if that happened again? True you might be devastated, but do you know who’s keeping score of every time you fail?
Ever heard of Thomas Edison? He failed hundreds of times trying to make a light bulb.
The difference with Edison is that he viewed the task he wanted to complete as a puzzle. He tried to solve it and if it didn’t work he’d try another piece, another method, another direction.
Life is not easy or perfect, so why would we ever believe a novel or starting a business would be a breeze? You’ll launch a business that will have bad days. You’ll start a blog that will not get any traffic. You’ll start a book that will be terrible in the end.
This can lead to a sad place. Where we draw a line in the sand between us and our dreams.
We give our dreams an ultimatum.
I’ll keep blogging if I get one new follower today.
I’ll keep practicing if I get a call this week for another audition.
I’ll try the guitar one more time, but then that’s it.
The key to eradicate the fear of failure is persistence and perspective.
What happens if persevere? If we throw away our fears of failing and go and see what’s on the other side of the hill?
J.K. Rowling kept at it.
Thomas Edison did too.
How about you?